We have had what I thought was a very good week. I arranged for hy daughter's counselor to talk to her teachers last week to let thm know what was going on and be on the lookout for side effects of the new meds. Very excited to go to the homecoming game Friday to meet freinds and then to the dance Saturday with another little grouip of girls. She met some guy Friday night which is a whole nother issue. After getting home around 11:30 last night and getting up around 8:00 this morning, she went back to bed. I know sleeping lots or less is a sign of depression, but we have established with her counselor and doctor that this has not been the case wtih her. We have been trying to get her to get up for about the last hour. It is important to understand that this is a control issue for her and has happened before. She is refusing to complete and assignment for Science and will fail that course as a result. She (for the 1st time ) used the "I am depressed" excuse for not wanting to get up. If this wasn't an identical repeat from at least 5 times before, I would accpet it. We even posted a punishment as a result of her doing this before.
UGH! Now I am at the point of not knowing what to do. I say no youth tomnight and we have told her we are taking her cell phone away. she has it hidden and my husband says we need to let her go to youth because it is a positive influence. I agree to a point but have recently had it pointed out to me that she is extremely antisocial there and on purpose separates herself from the group so am not really sure why she wants to go. We recently had a discussion with the pastor to ask why the leaders have not said anyting to her or to us. A parent of one of the girls she goes to school with actually called me last week to let me know of this negative behavior and wanted to make sure we knew about it.
So now she is sleeping the day away. Lacrosse starts in 25 minutes, homework is not done, youth is at 6:30 and the phone is still hidden. Right now I am at the point of just not doing anything. I am getting incredibly frustrated with this whole situation. While my husband sympathizes to a degree, he doesn't want to be the bad guy and is not willing to discuss realistic plans. I guess it is up to me to fix it as usual although they both agree on nothing other than the fact that I am a nag who just blows everything out of proportion. That sounds like I am having a bit of a pity party and I am not. I am just SOOOO tired of always going back to square one and not getting much support or input.
This isn't something I have discussed with any of my friends because it is so painful and personal. She has shared some of the cutting and depression issues with her ex boyfriend who has gone back to being a friend. His mom is a good friend of mine and I do not know if she is aware of most of this. Maybe we need a family discount on therapy and medication! Hope this week gets better than today!
